Grief Resources
Grief after the loss of a baby is deep, complex, and unique to every parent. There is no timeline, no "right" way to grieve — only your way. At The Kayde Foundation, we’ve created this space to offer gentle guidance, meaningful tools, and reminders that you are not alone.
Whether you're newly bereaved or further along in your journey, these resources are here to walk with you — through the quiet moments, the hard days, and the slow steps forward.
You are not alone. Your grief is valid. Your baby matters.
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It's OK That You're Not OK
Megan Devine
This book is included in our Bereavement/Memento boxes that we provide to families facing loss. In It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.
We Were Gonna Have A Baby, But We Had An Angel Instead
Pat Schwiebert
This beautifully written and illustrated book offers a gentle, age-appropriate way to help young children understand the loss of a baby sibling. Through simple language and heartfelt imagery, We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead acknowledges the sadness, confusion, and love that children may feel when a baby dies before or shortly after birth.
It is a supportive tool for parents who are navigating their own grief while also caring for their surviving children — helping to open up conversation, validate big feelings, and honour the baby who is no longer here.
Recommended for families with toddlers and young children, this book can be read together as part of the healing process and to keep the memory of your baby present in your home and hearts.
Someone Came Before You
Pat Schweibert
A gentle, heartfelt book written for children born after the loss of a baby sibling. It lovingly explains that while they are deeply wanted and loved, they were not the first baby in their family — and that the baby who came before them will always hold a special place in their family’s heart. This book offers a beautiful way for parents to talk about pregnancy and infant loss with their rainbow babies, helping them understand their family’s story in an age-appropriate, compassionate way. It honors the baby who died while celebrating the life and presence of the child who came after. With warm illustrations and sensitive language, Someone Came Before You is a meaningful tool for building connection, remembrance, and love within families who have experienced loss.
Understanding Your Grief
Dr. Alan Wolfelt
A gentle, heartfelt book written for children born after the loss of a baby sibling. It lovingly explains that while they are deeply wanted and loved, they were not the first baby in their family — and that the baby who came before them will always hold a special place in their family’s heart. This book offers a beautiful way for parents to talk about pregnancy and infant loss with their rainbow babies, helping them understand their family’s story in an age-appropriate, compassionate way. It honors the baby who died while celebrating the life and presence of the child who came after. With warm illustrations and sensitive language, Someone Came Before You is a meaningful tool for building connection, remembrance, and love within families who have experienced loss.
