Grief Resources

Grief after the loss of a baby is deep, complex, and unique to every parent. There is no timeline, no "right" way to grieve — only your way. At The Kayde Foundation, we’ve created this space to offer gentle guidance, meaningful tools, and reminders that you are not alone.

Whether you're newly bereaved or further along in your journey, these resources are here to walk with you — through the quiet moments, the hard days, and the slow steps forward.

You are not alone. Your grief is valid. Your baby matters.

It's OK That You're Not OK

Megan Devine

This book is included in our Bereavement/Memento boxes that we provide to families facing loss. In It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides―as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner―Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, “happy” life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.

From Father To Father: Letters From Loss Dad to Loss Dad

Emily R Long

This book is a simple book of letters written for you, a grieving loss dad, from other loss dads who are living and surviving after the death of their precious child. In the pages of this book, fathers from around the world share letters of love from their hearts to yours with the hope that, maybe, in the darkest, loneliest hours of grief, you will find a little bit of comfort in the words of another father who has been where you are now.Too often a father’s grief and experience of loss is overshadowed or unacknowledged after the death of their children. This book offers acknowledgement and gives voice to the experience of fathers grieving their children. The fathers speaking through these pages offer support and recognition to let you know that you are not alone. They are here with you.

We Were Gonna Have A Baby, But We Had An Angel Instead

Pat Schwiebert

This beautifully written and illustrated book offers a gentle, age-appropriate way to help young children understand the loss of a baby sibling. Through simple language and heartfelt imagery, We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead acknowledges the sadness, confusion, and love that children may feel when a baby dies before or shortly after birth.

It is a supportive tool for parents who are navigating their own grief while also caring for their surviving children — helping to open up conversation, validate big feelings, and honour the baby who is no longer here.

Recommended for families with toddlers and young children, this book can be read together as part of the healing process and to keep the memory of your baby present in your home and hearts.

Someone Came Before You

Pat Schweibert

A gentle, heartfelt book written for children born after the loss of a baby sibling. It lovingly explains that while they are deeply wanted and loved, they were not the first baby in their family — and that the baby who came before them will always hold a special place in their family’s heart. This book offers a beautiful way for parents to talk about pregnancy and infant loss with their rainbow babies, helping them understand their family’s story in an age-appropriate, compassionate way. It honors the baby who died while celebrating the life and presence of the child who came after. With warm illustrations and sensitive language, Someone Came Before You is a meaningful tool for building connection, remembrance, and love within families who have experienced loss.

Understanding Your Grief

Dr. Alan Wolfelt

A gentle, heartfelt book written for children born after the loss of a baby sibling. It lovingly explains that while they are deeply wanted and loved, they were not the first baby in their family — and that the baby who came before them will always hold a special place in their family’s heart. This book offers a beautiful way for parents to talk about pregnancy and infant loss with their rainbow babies, helping them understand their family’s story in an age-appropriate, compassionate way. It honors the baby who died while celebrating the life and presence of the child who came after. With warm illustrations and sensitive language, Someone Came Before You is a meaningful tool for building connection, remembrance, and love within families who have experienced loss.

Held In Our Hearts

Elizabeth Quinn

Grief after pregnancy or infant loss is unlike any other. It’s raw, heavy, and often unseen by the world around us. Held in Our Hearts was created as a gentle companion for mothers navigating life after loss—a space to feel understood, held, and connected.
Within these pages, you’ll meet eight mothers—Alexa, Sarah, Angela, Elizabeth M., Shannon, Lauren, Gina, and Elizabeth Q.—each sharing her story with honesty and courage. Their words remind us that while every loss is unique, none of us walk this path alone.
Alongside these heartfelt stories, you’ll find:

Gentle reflections and practices to help you move through grief
Meaningful ways to honor and remember your baby
Resources for support and healing on your own timeline

This book is not about fixing grief—it’s about making space for it. Held in Our Hearts offers presence instead of answers, hope instead of hollow platitudes, and community instead of isolation.
For any mother learning to live with both love and loss, these pages are a soft place to land—a reminder that your love endures, and your baby will always be held in your heart.